Will healing ever happen in this lifetime? Can we really say we are over whatever or whoever hurt us? I think a huge fraction of whatever pain we are feeling as of the moment really came from our previous life because you know it had been there even before you experienced something traumatic. Wouldn't it be right if we become conscious and try our best not to be the cause of another child of God's same deal of pain? If you will be given a choice between hurting and not hurting, choose the one that hurt less.